Why must conflicts always be seen as bad?
Why do you not like conflicts?
Do you have any idea how much a conflict teaches you about yourself?
Do you have any idea what about yourself can you learn from conflicts?
Do you resolve or manage conflicts?
Do you aim to be the winner, or do you want a win-win outcome in a conflict?
Conflict is when one does not accept what one sees.
Conflicts are situations whereby all involved parties try their best to be the victim.
Conflicts are situations whereby all involved parties challenge to see who gets most sympathy.
Conflicts are situations whereby all involved parties volunteer to be victims.
Conflicts are situations whereby all involved parties think that being victims would make them the victor.
Why not be the victor without even being the victim?
Conflicts are situations whereby all involved parties want each other to apologize for being wrong.
Conflicts are situations whereby some involved parties just say sorry to get it over and done with.
They apologize, for nothing. They don’t know why they apologize.
If I ask you, for the past 20 times you said “sorry,” out of all 20, for how many times do you know why you said it?
Are you able to tell me why you said sorry, how would it help, how are you going to make sure the same thing won’t happen, , why should the other party forgive you, how would the other party feel better, and how did it make you feel better?
Conflicts are situations whereby at least one mediator usually comes in.
Mediators encourages parties to look for answers where all parties gets what they want and need.
Mediators are not biased.
Mediators have no prejudice.
Mediators have no preassumptions of the conflict.
Mediators have no preconceptions of the conflict.
One big problem with school is that, besides the counsellor and experienced or trained personnels, the teachers are really faulty mediators. Not to mention, the students who think they can and try mediate conflicts well by themselves.
I’ve come to a point in whereby salt no longer hurt my wounds. I’ve come to a point whereby my heart has become elastic.
Self-awareness. Don’t wait for someone to tell you what you don’t know about yourself, lest you get shocked and burst into conflict within yourself.
