In my previous post, someone posted a question as a comment.
The question was this:
“Why is it that when a guy's love for a girl gets turned down, they will stop talking to each other?”
Firstly, this happens to girls too. Secondly, not all will stop talking to each other, many remain friends.
So let's say they do stop talking to each other.
I don't know, I think it's because of self-esteem, anger/hatred, or embarassment.
Self-esteem:
When you see a very good-looking, hot guy with a big group of hot sizzling female models, would you go up to him and ask to make friends? Chances are, you won't. Because you feel as though you aren't “good enough” to make friends with him, compared to the female models.
If you do, and if that guy says “No, I don't want to be your friend,” it would feel as though he just gave you a hard push away, making you never want to go near him as you fear he might do it again. You never thought that you were so much “lower” than him than you thought you were.
He basically ripped off your self-esteem. And from then on, whenever you see another hot guy out there, you would recall what happened and would never think of wanting to attempt to make friends with any hot guy, anymore(until you pick yourself up, once again).
When it comes to relationship, it's the same. You ask to go steady with a guy, he tells you no, you think that he doesn't like you, you won't feel good talking to him in future.
Anger/Hatred:
You know, those people who comes to you when they need help, and when you ask them for help, they refuse? Those that act as if they like you a lot, care for you a lot, just to get some of your money, to get to know some of your good-looking guy friends. And when they get what they want from you, they keep a distance away from you. When this happens, you dislike them, you feel angry, and sometimes it gets serious enough for you to hate them. Sometimes, in the process of wooing a girl, a guy does every single thing for her, he continues to woo her because they both get very close to each other. But the girl gets close to him just to make him do more for her. When the guy thinks the time is ripe, he pops the question, and gets rejected.
He would then question himself over and over, big and bold in his mind:
”she has lots of laughter when she's with me, she holds me when she's scared, she turns to me when she has nowhere else to go, she turns to me when she's bored, she turns to me whenever she's free to go out, so why reject my love?”
The guy feels cheated, the guy feels stupid, the guy feels that his been made a fool. He hates that, he dislikes her for doing all that, and doesn't even get an apology.
Embarrassment:
I don't think there's much to say for this, sometimes when one gets rejected, he or she will think, “did I make a fool out of myself? I'm just a nobody, and I'm asking him/her to be my partner? What a joke!”
And from then on, wouldn't really “dare to” face up to that person.
